Thursday, March 17, 2011

Slowing Down

When we get in the mode of feeling overwhelmed by the sheer volume of work and life our minds tend to run at a frenetic pace just trying to keep up. It's as if we somehow believe that if our mind thinks about all the things we have to do fast enough, that we may get some of it done...or all of it. Set this delusion aside. Work will be here long after we're gone.

Exactly at the moment when we feel we need to speed up, pause.
It's a meditation that anyone can do if they take 2 minutes. Here's how it works:
  • Get a timer
  • Set it to 2 minutes
  • Find a chair or place to stand where you can be comfortable
  • Close your eyes and click the timer
  • Envision that your absolute nature is pure light. The light is pure white and blinding.
  • Hold this vision until the timer goes off.
  • After the timer beeps your done.

Now, you have a chance to observe your surroundings. If you do this enough you'll want to stay in this mode of meditation for longer and longer durations. What happens as a result of timing it is that you are giving your brain permission to get very still, to slow down, and to focus on one concept. Once you have done this a few times you will notice some very interesting things. Your memory is likely to improve. Your mood will be elevated, and life will seem much easier to deal with because it really will be. You are actively engaging for the duration of two minutes with an ancient Truth.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Simple but Not Easy

Self-respect is the fruit of discipline; the sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to oneself.
—Abraham Heschel


Most of us have struggled with our self-esteem. We believed if we felt better about ourselves we could change some of our behavior. In recovery we found the reverse to be true. First our behavior changed, then our self-esteem improved.

Only after we stop doing things we don't respect can we hear and accept the goodwill of others around us. Then we see our value as men because we are upholding strong self-images by our actions. This is not easy to do. As we learn, we continue to say no to weak behaviors, and we are released to feel greater dignity.

Saying no to my negative behavior today will improve my self-respect.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©1986, 1991 by Hazelden Foundation.